I don’t understand why Indian parents are so against smoking and drinking. Take my folks for instance, father doesn’t mind me taking a sip or two of his beer once a while or maybe every time. He doesn’t even mind if I drank a can of draught or came home drunk. He saw a cigarette pack in my bag once, he opened it looked in and kept it back. No questions asked. The mother is total opposite, I don’t understand her logic. She doesn’t like me taking a sip from papa’s drinks. When drinking with cousins and the family she says ‘’it’s not good to drink in front of the family, what will they think’’ and when drinking with friends at picnics and get-togethers she says “family ke saath thik hai, friends ke saath nahi pite”. Now what do get out of what she says? No, she doesn’t know I smoke and she won’t ever. She will freak out, throw a few vessels at me and maybe stop my pocket money.
Drinking till a point is still acceptable but smoking is not. Why? I was talking to the mother the other day, I told her “mother I wanna try smoking” she looked at me wide eyed, her jaw touched the floor, ekdam Looney Toons style and she said to me “fine. Do it and tell me how it was but it’s a bad habit.” I laughed and said “are you crazy? Me and smoking? No way! I can’t even stand that smell, I have bronchitis, you forgot kya?” and I knew hearing that she would relax. So yeah, that’s that. Smoking is a bad habit, I hear it all the time, mother says it, uncles say it but I see everybody, most people around me smoking but that’s not the question. The question is if it is a bad habit and we shouldn’t do it, then toh there are like 500 bad habit that we do in a day, so why not one more?
You get my point? As kids we are taught to say the 3 magical words. What are they? Hah! PLEASE, SORRY AND THANKYOU. And not using them in your daily conversations was rude and a bad habit. How many of us use them? “Ay, give that yaar” or “move aside” no please give it or please move aside. Nail biting is also a bad habit, but mother does it all the time. Leaving the table and not waiting for other to finish is a bad habit. Calling someone names is a bad habit. Mocking, making fun of people, picking your nose, quarrelling, putting your legs up on the seat, all these are bad habits but whenever we do them nobody stops us or points them to us. Burping and farting were bad habits too, but now we have who burps the loudest and who farts the smelliest competitions. But smoking is a bad habit.
I always say please, sorry and thank you, I wait for others to finish and then get up from the table, I don’t mock people or call them names, I don’t pick my nose or quarrel or fart in public. For all these ‘’good habits’’ that I do I can do a few bad ones too right? And smoking is my bad habit. I don’t care who says what or if I get caught and I’m in trouble or mother finds smokes in my bags or books…this is my bad habit and I will do it. So what if I have bronchitis? I do other things to curb it too.
So my dear mother and all you other parents, your kids will smoke, they will lie and they will have their bad habits, get used to it.